September 20th - More to Life Weekend

I did the More to Life weekend while I was in London – I heard about the program through a friend and it was scheduled for when I'd be in town, so I thought it was meant to be and signed up. It was an interesting experience ... I went into it knowing very little of what to expect. I knew I was on this journey of self discovery and I hoped a formal program now would help me consolidate what I had learned so far and also help me figure out where I was going next – or at least give me some tools I could use. It was another example of not doing a lot of research and just going for it ... unfortunately in this case, it didn't pan out quite as I had hoped.

Unfortunately, I was put off quickly – they wanted us to share and be very open with the large group (e.g. 60+ and microphone required) ... and as much as I'm opening from my introverted shell, it was too much. I also had a reaction to their 'disciplines' – basically a series of do's and don'ts to be followed during the 2.5 days – nothing earth shattering – basics in the room (no watches, food or drink, go to the side of the room when you need to refocus) and out of the room (no alcohol or chocolate, limited coffee and cigarettes). I understood the rationale for this – to be more present, shake yourself out of your normal routine etc. etc. - to use their phrase, to be more 'awake'. I had two reactions – one, it was a good reminder in the moment of just how much I don't like being told what to do ... but two, it was symptomatic of the overall weekend that just felt too scripted and too rah rah for me – so while I did my best to stay open, especially to the tools and to see 'what was next' in each session, I know I shut down at times – at least I was present about it.

On the positive side, the facilitators were very good and one in particular, excellent – she was able to use people's sharing to make connections and uncover deeper learning, for them personally as well as for the group. For example, the difference between doing a good job and being right versus doing one's best – definitely a trip I fall into. The tools they used were also good – being aware of what they call 'mind talk' (what you tell yourself that isn't really true), then 'clearing' it and also working through resentments and forgiveness, of others and yourself. I was able to 'clear' a professional situation and I did appreciate that.

The bottom line was that for some it was incredibly powerful – and I do believe, from the emails that circulated after, that it did change their lives – the programs intent. But for me, I wasn't able to crack into my deeper personal issues – the environment they created or their brand of 'kool aid' just didn't work for me. The good news is that they have a money back guarantee – and so I asked for my money back – an act which in and off itself speaks volumes to my overall development over the last year and a half :-) I had a good conversation and was able to articulate my experience – it felt good and empowering – and also was a testament to the integrity of the organization which I respected.